Eps 465: Being intentional – The Art of Connected Parenting, part 4

Episode 465



Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do.  This week, we’re talking about goals & intentional parenting. 

Now that we’ve had a chance in the series to talk about our own parenting stories, touched on what’s going on with the fear, shame, & guilt that we all feel, and shared some tips for being okay with the messiness of parenting, now we can dig into being an intentional parent and defining our parenting goals. 

There’s lots we can do to control kids – yes, punishment can work short term.  But we want to do better than that – we want to be intentional, conscious parents.  We have to step back and ask, “Why are we doing this?  What’s my goal here?  What’s my long-term intention?  What do I want to bring to life in this interaction?”  It all comes back to teaching and skill-building.  

Remember the adult life-skills & characteristics we’re hoping our kids will have so they can realize their true, best selves.  That is how we set those goals & our intentions. 

Alanna shares the perspective shift that helped her and her kiddo get out the door in the morning, Julietta shares how her family solved an after-school-care issue, & Casey shares a recent misstep she had with her adult daughter, Rowan, and how she repaired. 

Most of our interactions with our kids aren’t particularly intentional – it’s about the times when it really matters.  This doesn’t come easily to any of us!  There are no short-cuts here, but it doesn’t have to be perfect.  

We wrap up this week pondering on when your parenting partner (or friends, or child(ren)’s teachers, coaches, etc.) aren’t on the same page about your intentions. 


Guest Description 

Alanna Beebe is a certified Positive Discipline Educator. She has 15+ yrs in public health & early learning communications, and equity & social justice policy development. She is a current board member of FoxBox, helping families in long-term hospital stays. She is a former board member for WACAP (now HoltInternational.org), international and domestic adoption and foster placement agency.

Julietta Skoog is a Certified Positive Discipline Advanced Trainer with an Ed.S Degree in School Psychology and a Masters Degree in School Counseling with over 20 years of experience helping families in schools and homes. She draws from her real life practical experience working with thousands of students with a variety of needs and her own three children to parent coaching, bringing a unique ability to translate research, child development and Positive Discipline principles into everyday parenting solutions. Her popular keynote speeches, classes, and workshops have been described as rejuvenating, motivating, and inspiring.

Casey O’Roarty, M.Ed, is a facilitator of personal growth and development. For the last 15 years, her work has encouraged parents to discover the purpose of their journey, and provided them with tools and a shift of mindset that has allowed them to deepen their relationship with themselves and their families. Casey is a Positive Discipline Lead Trainer and Coach. She hosts the Joyful Courage podcast, parenting summits, live and online classes, and individual coaching. Her book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of YOUR Parenting Journey was published in May 2019. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband, and two teenagers.

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Takeaways from the show

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  • Clarifying what your goal is 
  • Discipline means to teach 
  • We can’t control outcomes, but we can be intentional in our actions & what we bring to the dynamic 
  • “What does this moment need?” 
  • Sometimes we’re the ones in the way of what needs to be taught 
  • Willingness lives inside of intentionality 
  • Creating a family charter 
  • This is a long-term game – no quick fixes in parenting 
  • What about when our parenting partner or village have different goals than we do? 
  • You’re not the only person who will teach your child 
  • Experiences are how kids grow

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Transcription

SUMMARY KEYWORDS
kids, parent, intentionality, intention, intentional, parenting, rowan, goal, talk, relationship, practice, friends, teach, family, school, feeling, opportunity, week, live, love
SPEAKERS
Julietta Skoog, Alanna Beebe, Casey O'Roarty

Casey O'Roarty 00:03
Hey everybody, welcome to the joyful courage podcast a place for information and inspiration on the parenting journey. Just wanted to give you a heads up that from now until the 11th of March, the podcast is being taken over, we've got a limited series happening, you're going to hear about it in just a moment, the art of connected parenting so still the same deep value that you get every Monday here on the joyful coach podcast, but we will be sharing the limited series art of connected parenting for the next little while. And the good news is this limited series is good for all parents, young kids all the way through the teen years. So check it out and enjoy

Casey O'Roarty 00:56
Hey, everybody, welcome back to the podcast series The Art of connected parenting where the founders of spreadable are coming together to talk about the power of up leveling, how we think about and understand our role and relationships with our kids just remind you of who we are. I'm Casey O'Doherty, host of the joyful courage podcast positive discipline lead trainer mom adolescent Lead here at Sprout edible and with me are Alana BB, our Managing Director, brilliant, thoughtful mama and positive discipline parent educator as well. And my friend and colleague Julieta Skoog, also a mom, the early years lead here and positive discipline trainer, we are so excited to continue to dig into all the places with all of you, thank you for being here and listening. In last episode, we dug into shifting perspective and embracing imperfection, embracing the messiness of this practice. This week, we're talking about getting clear on what is my goal here? So who wants to start us off by giving some context to that question? What is my goal? When would we ask that question? Why would we ask that question?

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