Eps 463: Perspective and imperfection – The Art of Connected Parenting, part 3

Episode 463


Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do.  This week, we’re talking about shifting our perspective & embracing imperfection so we can learn and grow as parents and humans.  Embracing the challenges is hard!  When we have our compass of understanding development & trusting connection, we can move away from the shame & guilt we talked about last week. 

We’re getting vulnerable this week sharing stories of our own challenges.  From losing soccer games to being stuck in small houses with big families during COVID, we all have those really challenging moments with our kids.  

Remember our iceberg metaphor in Positive Discipline?  What we’re seeing behaviorally is just the tip of the iceberg.  The why behind the behavior, the missing skills, and our possible solutions are all uncovered when we dig deeper. 

You have a choice when it comes to what you’re moving through with your child.  You can sit in the negative, or you can choose to sit in the positive and focus on what you & your child(ren) are learning.  But, how do we choose that?  

Start by enjoying your child!  Some kids are harder than others, and if you’re feeling disconnected, focus on repairing that connection first.  In Positive Discipline, we say “mistakes are opportunities to learn.”  But what about when the mistakes are BIG?  What about when they affect us?  We can shift our thinking from “what did you just do!?” to “what are we practicing here?”  You don’t need to fix every mistake your child makes – that’s how they learn.  Mistakes grow skills! 

Join us next week when we dig into our parenting goals.  

Guest Description 

Alanna Beebe is a certified Positive Discipline Educator. She has 15+ yrs in public health & early learning communications, and equity & social justice policy development. She is a current board member of FoxBox, helping families in long-term hospital stays. She is a former board member for WACAP (now HoltInternational.org), international and domestic adoption and foster placement agency.

Julietta Skoog is a Certified Positive Discipline Advanced Trainer with an Ed.S Degree in School Psychology and a Masters Degree in School Counseling with over 20 years of experience helping families in schools and homes. She draws from her real life practical experience working with thousands of students with a variety of needs and her own three children to parent coaching, bringing a unique ability to translate research, child development and Positive Discipline principles into everyday parenting solutions. Her popular keynote speeches, classes, and workshops have been described as rejuvenating, motivating, and inspiring.

Casey O’Roarty, M.Ed, is a facilitator of personal growth and development. For the last 15 years, her work has encouraged parents to discover the purpose of their journey, and provided them with tools and a shift of mindset that has allowed them to deepen their relationship with themselves and their families. Casey is a Positive Discipline Lead Trainer and Coach. She hosts the Joyful Courage podcast, parenting summits, live and online classes, and individual coaching. Her book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of YOUR Parenting Journey was published in May 2019. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband, and two teenagers.

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Takeaways from the show

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  • Shifting perspective & embracing imperfection 
  • Parenting is messy – there will always be challenges
  • Mistakes are opportunities to teach & learn 
  • Connecting with littles & with teens 
  • Not catastrophizing challenges 
  • Finding missing skills & supporting your child through challenge 
  • Positive Discipline’s iceberg metaphor of behavior 
  • Being an advocate & ally for your child 
  • Enjoying your child 
  • Shifting from mistakes to practice 
  • Many “misbehaviors” are developmentally appropriate and expected
  • Not every mistake a child makes needs you to fix it 
  • Commiting to connection & relationship 

 

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Transcription

SPEAKERS
Alanna Beebe, Casey O'Roarty, Julietta Skoog

Casey O'Roarty 00:03
Hey everybody, welcome to the joyful courage podcast a place for information and inspiration on the parenting journey. Just wanted to give you a heads up that from now until the 11th of March, the podcast is being taken over, we've got a limited series happening, you're going to hear about it in just a moment, the art of connected parenting so still the same deep value that you get every Monday here on the joyful coach podcast, but we will be sharing the limited series art of connected parenting for the next little while. And the good news is this limited series is good for all parents, young kids all the way through the teen years. So check it out and enjoy

Casey O'Roarty 00:56
Hey, everybody, welcome back to our super special podcast series, The Art of connected parenting, where the founders of Sproutsocial are coming together to talk about the power of up levelling, how we think about and understand our roles and relationships with our kids. Just to remind you of who we are I'm Casey over 30 Host of the joyful courage podcast positive discipline lead trainer mom adolescent lead it's profitable with me are Alana Beebe, our Managing Director you can wave to the people there you go brilliant mama and positive discipline parent educator and my sister from another mister Julietta school, also a mom, early years lead and positive discipline trainer, we're so excited to continue to dig into this work with all of you, thank you for being here. And listening in and watching our web series set. When we call it video extraordinaire. We'll see what we're going to call it. The last episode, we dug into the ways shame and guilt and self doubt and fear show up and get in the way of who we want to be for our kids and how we show up for them. Check it out. If you missed it. It's a really useful conversation. This week, we're talking about shifting our perspective and embracing imperfection so we can learn and grow as parents in humans. Ladies. Hi, here we are. Yeah, I know. How do you feel about this topic?

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