Eps 366: The Parenting Map with Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Episode 366



My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary. 

Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting.  She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers.  Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection.  They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow.  Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior.  They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary.  Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego.  They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment. 


Guest Description

Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.

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Takeaways from the show

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  • What is conscious parenting? 
  • Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map” 
  • The challenges of looking inward 
  • Parenting is about growth, not perfection
  • Challenging & deconstructing your narratives 
  • The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors 
  • Defiance is developmentally healthy 
  • Dr. Shefali’s five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, & fleer 
  • Acknowledging and calming your ego 
  • Why & how negotiating with your kids can be positive

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SUMMARY KEYWORDS
kid, parent, conscious parenting, ego, book, feel, children, talk, messed, practice, friends, big, casey, inner child, narrative, behaviors, daughter, people, mom, lost
SPEAKERS
Casey O'Roarty, Dr. Shefali

Casey O'Roarty 00:00
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Casey O'Roarty 01:06
Hey, welcome to the joyful courage podcast a place for inspiration and transformation as we try and keep it together. While parenting our tweens and teens. This is real work people and when we can focus on our own growth, and nurturing the connection with our kids, we can move through the turbulence in a way that allows for relationships to remain intact. My name is Casey already I am your fearless host. I'm a positive discipline trainer, space holder coach and the adolescent lead at Sprout ball. I am also the mama to a 20 year old daughter and 17 year old son walking right beside you on this path of raising our kids with positive discipline and conscious parenting. This show is meant to be a resource to you and I work really hard to keep it real, transparent and authentic so that you feel seen and supported. Today is an interview and I have no doubt that what you hear will be useful to you. Please don't forget sharing truly is caring. If you love today's show, please pass the link around snap a screenshot posted on your socials or texted to your friends. Together we can make an even bigger impact on families all around the globe. I'm so glad that you're here. Enjoy the show. All right. Hi, listeners. Hi. Hi. Hi. I'm so excited for today's guest. Dr. Shefali is on the podcast today talking with me about her new book, Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy. She brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development. She teaches courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times bestsellers and cluding. Her two landmark books, the conscious parent, and the awakened family, I had the great pleasure of meeting Dr. Shefali in person on my epic world tour last fall, and just really glad to be welcoming you to the podcast. Hi, friend.

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