Eps 258: Teasing Apart Emotional Labor with Gemma Hartley

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My guest today is Gemma Hartley.

Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10.

Takeaways from the show:

• Gemma’s journey of being a writer

• The article that started her career

• Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it

• Teasing apart emotional labor

• The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders

• What are shared standards

• Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason

• Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis

• Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone

• Make it normal to talk about emotional labor

• Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary

• When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions

• The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved

• Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor

• Asking your kids to “help” you with household chores implies it is your job, which it isn’t

• Recognize the subtle messaging you’re giving your kids

Where to find Gemma:

Book | Website | Facebook | Instagram | Women Aren’t Nags Article | Emotional Labor Article

What does joyful courage mean to you?

I think for me it means doing the scary and vulnerable work that’s going to lead to a life with more joy. 

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